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*turns on adorable animal feeds and gives you soft pillows and blankets*
I think at the end of the day the perceived gender and race of asexual people has a lot of bearing on whether or not they’re oppressed. It can’t be compartmentalized and I really don’t think we should even be trying. These things intersect. You can’t disentangle misogyny from ace women having to constantly turn down mens advances. You can’t disentangle racism from the fetishized flirting ace black women and other ace woc face. An ace woman facing those struggles isn’t just a womens issue, it’s an ace issue. To reduce all cis ace peoples struggles to “awwww it must be so hard being asked out all the time” shows a lack of understanding. To see ace people bemoaning their struggles and come in with “well I’m ace and I don’t feel oppressed” is gross.
the reason i made this page from the jump. like, asexual communities are overwhelmingly white, and people of color deal with being thought as sexual in some way, shape, or form from the day we first speak. we cannot escape being thought of as just ‘people’ because no one thinks of us as people from the start. in the sense of dating, people do not value our personal traits, but see us as a sexual conquest (even other POC or people in our own ethnic group). while white AVENites might be able to say “well, i don’t feel oppressed for being ace”, it’s a key part of their privilege to not feel oppressed (unless it’s like, overt sexism against white women).
(i hope this makes sense, because I just have a LOT of feelings on the subject and I’m not horrible eloquent tonight)